Ep. 18 - What is a Lost Battle?

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What is a "Lost Battle?" What does it mean to the addicted? What does it mean to the betrayed? How can we even talk about it? Can we process a lost battle?

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TIME CODES

  • 1:44 - Clark - Welcome and intro
  • 3:41 - Linda’s thoughts
  • 7:31 - Linda’s reaction to the lost battle
  • 9:46 - Conflicting feelings - want to be supportive, but can’t minimize how much it hurts
  • 14:21 - If his addiction has nothing to do with me then why does it affect me so much?
  • 15:50 - A mom’s reaction vs a wife’s
  • 19:24 - Can trust be regained?
  • 29:36 - Clark shares what happened
  • 43:26 - Clark shares Linda reaction from his point of view
  • 45:40 - What to do after? Lost battle analysis. Embrace Change Get Help that’s not your wife
  • 54:24 - What I’ve learned - Buckle up. You’re in for some rough times
  • 55:14 - Just because you’re on the same team doesn’t mean you won’t fight
  • 56:56 - A lot battle doesn’t reset your relationship to ground zero. It puts you in a hole that’s worse than before and you have to dig out.
  • 1:05:02 - What to do in your relationship
  • 1:05:59 - Be patient
  • 1:14:42 - Don’t give up. You WILL feel rejected for a while, but don’t stop reaching out and being nice.

HOMEWORK

  • 1:20:52
  • For the addicted: Read through lost battle analysis, even if you haven't lost a battle. (Lost battle analysis can be found in the book linked below)
  • For the betrayed: Get some self care, maybe a good boxing workout!

*A Lost Battle - is described more in the FREE Like Dragons Did They Fight book (https://bg416-679c00.pages.infusionso...) by Maurice Harker who founded the Men of Moroni Program as well as Life Changing Services. (http://www.lifechangingservices.org) Check them out to learn more and get support. If you are the once betrayed or currently betrayed, you WANT to hear Maurice, he is so validating. (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCb4q...)

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Disclaimer: The Clark N Linda Show includes thoughts, opinions, experiences, and testimonies of hosts Clark & Linda Winegar. The information shared is neither intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional sexual addiction therapy, betrayal trauma therapy, marriage counseling/therapy or legal advice. Please seek professional help for recovery & healing. You know, like from people who actually went to school or have had more than just 1st hand experience with this. Also, said thoughts, opinions, experiences, and testimonies represent those of two individual members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, BUT we do not claim to represent or speak for The Church in any official capacity. Expressed views and opinions should not be construed as official church doctrine—though we’ll certainly try not to stray far from it and hope someone calls us out if we do.

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